Is there a right and wrong way?

I myself have two young girls a three year old and a two year old and its very hardwork as any parent can agree,

I looked online for tips and rights and wrongs asked family memebers their advice and to be honest i cam e to the same conclusion thereis no right or wrong way to try and bring up your children.

I started off treating my children the same but found i was making more hard work for myself as now ove rthe years they want exactly the same things it is like having twins they only sleep if have same bedding and nightwear they only eat if the other one eats and christmas and birthdays is hard too as i have to get two of everything or they will fight.

If i try treat them little differntly they now fight as their used to being eaual i sometimes wonder if thi is my fault should we treat our children the same or is there a stopping point?

I am hoping as they get older they will maybe get bored of being treated the same and want differnt things.

Im thinking that it will be worse over the years as they are defenitly set in their ways there is not much of an age gap and it is nice they want the same things but does prove hard at times.

They have recently started nursey and now fight over who speaks to whos friends and who is going to sit next them when they come over to play.

I do feel i am stuck at the moment and wonder if i did the wrong thing to bring them up the same way.Please feel free to comment with suggestions or advice you would give to other parents in the same boat.