I am a new mother, so I cannot really say that I am an expert in parenting. I read, listen to other people’s counsel, observe and of course, follow my heart as to the matter of parenting.
One aspect that is really a big concern for me is discipline. I only have one child at the moment, a daughter, and she is so adorable. But at 10 months old, she really knows that she is the only child and that she is special to us. I am a stay at home mom so I get to observe her first hand—his actuations, behavior, and reactions to things.
I am very thankful for such a child as her, but as with other children, she will need to be disciplined if we want her to grow up to become an upright individual who fears the Lord. Most of the time, I look up the bible for sound parenting advice, because we are Christians who believe that the bible is the word of God.
One verse in the bible that is most often ignored is Ephesians 6:4 that says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children…” That is the first part. I have really considered that. In my childhood, I have experienced many exasperating instances and would not want to do that to my child. And the second part of the verse continues, “instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
That I also what I intend to do. But how do we do it? I am no expert and certainly new in the realm of parenting. But that is what the bible says so I am asking God for wisdom in raising up and training our child in the instruction of the Lord. And of course, that God will teach us not to become exasperating to our child.
I believe that this is one aspect of parenting that is really very important. In order to effectively discipline them and make them obey house rules and God’s rules, we should not exasperate our children. That does not mean spoiling them either. The bible is clear about sparing the rod and spoiling the child issue.
So in my case, I may need to start disciplining my baby soon. She is already growing up so fast. And this verse is my key verse in raising her up.