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Steps To Get Out Of An Abusive Relationship

elvyra By elvyra on
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There are many people who live in abusive home. What can you do if you live in an abusive home? It's difficult for that person to get back on their own feet withhout some rigorous saving and planning. If you find yourself living in an abusive home, you should be aware that you're in an abusive relationship and chances things might get worse. For most abusive relationship, it only get worse and it doesn't get better. I've read and seen numerous of those relationships and they don't get any better. I've been in many abusive relationships myself, like with my ex-boyfriends, my brother and my family and things only deteriorate to the point where I was going to be murdered. Yes, abusive relationships can end up in fatal ending. If you are in one, you need to do everything in your power to leave that relationship and start a new life for yourself. You deserve to live a safe and happy life. People have the right to the pursuit of happiness. You can end up dying if you keep up with an abusive relationship. For those that are not in one, it's best not to get into one or else you will be praying that you can escape it. Here are some tips if you need to get out of an abusive relationship.


You need to acknowledge that you're in one and that you're doing everything that you can to move on with your life, include leaving the relationship. Some people keep on denying it or think that they can change the other person, like my own mother. She have been in an abusive relationship for 30 years but she will refuse to say that her husband is abusive and she will not accept that she's in an abusive relationship, even though she tried to commit suicide many times. For some ignorant reasosn, she will not admit to me that she's in one, when she needs me to protect and rescue her. My dad is a violent man and he used her for her entire life. She's just a bank account to him and a body for him to use. Yes, it's very sad for me to live with this reality but I can't convince her if she doesn't want to believe in it. You need to tell yourself that you're in an abusive relationship and your life is endanger and you could die some day if you don't make an effort to leave it.


Once you have accept your abusive relationship, now it's time to plan for your future. It's not easy for a mother and five kids to leave because she might not have enough money or resources to get out there but just have a peace of mind because there are plenty of help and shelter out there for you until you get back on your feet. This is why it's important to have friends, family and money save up so you can leave any time that you want to. You need to plan about your finances and places that you can stay at. If you have friends or family then keep them at your sight and let them know that you need their help, even if it's just for 6 months. They should be able to come to your rescue. You can plan to save up to about several months worth of rent, food and expenses. When you go to a shelter, they will also give you a bus pass, food and a place to live for awhile or until you get back on your feet. Your best bet is to find out the nearest shelter and go and live there for awhile. The police will also have victim unit homes where you can live in an undisclosed location for awhile.

Keep a secret

When you're planning to leave, you should keep it a secret and don't let your abuser know that you're leaving them. If you let them know, they will try to attack you or prevent you from leaving, and you can even end up dying in this type of situation. You need to leave everything the way that it is like your clothing, your room and everything else. You will need to know when they will not be home and leave when they're not home or call the police to come and take you. 911 is the number to call when you need their help. When you do get out, you should file a police report and have them arrested. If they don't care about you, why should you care about them. You deserve better. People like that need to be behind bars and need to have their lives destroyed just like the way that they have destroy you. It's a slap in their face so they will learn. Violent people are everywhere.


When they're not home, you need to leave. You need to have a mode of transportation like a car or bus pass or call your friends, family or the police to come and get you and your children. You should never leave your children behind. When you're ready to leave, make sure you have all of your paper work with you and your clothing ready so you can go without coming back for anything.