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Think Before You Cheat

dsnygrl By dsnygrl on
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Think BEFORE you cheat.

Cheating is out of control and seems to have reached epidemic proportions. Famous celebrities like Tiger Woods and Jessie James are all over the news with tales of their numerous affairs and it seems as though another famous cheater is reveled every day. Some blame it on addiction, others crave the attention and others do it just for the thrill but do any of them actually think about the repercussions of their actions before they cheat?

Cheating can be emotional or physical and has become easier and easier to do thanks to today's technology. How easy is it to send off an email or a text? Add to that social network sites likeFacebook and Myspace that give you access new and exciting people day or night right from the comfort of your own home. Then, there is the web site of all web sites for cheaters AshleyMadison.com who's actual slogan is "life is short, have an affair". On this site married people sign up to meet other married people to cheat with. How crazy is that? When you add in all the old fashioned methods of meeting people to cheat with like work buddies, next door neighbors and people you meet out on the town it's no wonder people are being tempted to cheat and acting upon it because it has become so easy.

The same technology that has made cheating easier and more accessible has also proved to be one of the easiest ways to get caught as well. This is why it is so important to think before you cheat. Think about what you are about to do or are already doing and ask yourself if it's really worth the cost of what will happen when you get caught because chances are pretty good that you will get caught at some point. Think about all the people that will be affected by your bad decision and lack of self control. Cheating affects everyone in your life and how they see you not just your spouse. Think about your parents, your kids, your coworkers and your friends who once they find out you are a cheater will all look at you differently. Their trust in you will be broken and in some cases their lives will be destroyed and torn apart. Think about what you will do and say when you get caught. Will you call it quits in your relationship and walk away or will you stay and fight for what you may loose? Walking away is easy, it's the staying and fighting that is hard to do because the person who have cheated on may at some point be able to forgive but you but they will never forget what you did and at any time those feelings of betrayal can surface again.

If you choose to stay, you need to be willing to do what ever it takes to fix what you have broken and it won't be easy to do. After you willing you go to counseling? Will you tell your partner every detail of what happened if they ask? Will you be willing to open every aspect of your life for inspection? Will you be honest and not get angry when you are constantly being questioned about your whereabouts and your feelings? Will you hand over all the codes to your emails and cell phones? Or my personal favorite, will you go on national television and say what a jerk you are in front of the whole world? What will you do to fix the mess you made?

The simple solution to all of this is to think BEFORE you cheat about what it will do to your life and the lives of those around you. Is your few minutes, hours, weeks or months of fun worth all the pain and suffering that you will bring to those closest to you?

Think about it.